Living with an alcoholic is far from what girls dream of when they fantasize about their wedding day. It is difficult to imagine that someone voluntarily wants to live "happily ever after" with a person addicted to alcohol, to endure his aggression or complaints about life, to clean up after him, to take care of him, to feel disgust. and shame for his behavior in front of neighbors, colleagues, friends and relatives. Not surprisingly, an alcoholic's marriage falls apart if nothing can make him overcome his desire to drink. However, there are brave women who fight to the last for their families, applying different measures to the drunkard, whose goal is the same - so that the husband does not drink, to discourage him from ruining his life (both his andand his relatives) with dependence. to intoxicated drinks.
Constructive dialogue
The first thing you need to do is try to convince him. If the desire to drink is related to problems outside the family - work, career, friends, and if alcoholism has not gone too far, it can easily stop after meeting the support of relatives.
A constructive dialogue should only start after careful preparation and consideration of certain rules:
- you cannot talk to a person until he returns to an adequate state and becomes able to understand reasonable arguments;
- do not try to convince an alcoholic while he is experiencing a hangover;
- it is undesirable to try to provoke regret or, on the contrary, to make scandals for a drinker (even in a sober state), most often attention is needed;
- you can threaten a drunkard, but it is important to prepare for this threat;
- Before starting a conversation, it is advisable to seek the advice of a narcologist so that the alcoholic, if he so desires, can go to the clinic for treatment immediately.
If the wife manages to prove to the drinking husband the need to seek help, to convince him to at least try to change his life, this man will have a chance. This can also be helped by drawing up a so-called 'motivation list'. You can work together to come up with a number of reasons why getting rid of alcoholism will be not only easy but also helpful. For example:
- to earn the respect of your children;
- to save money on a big purchase or vacation trip for a month;
- start learning something new instead of getting drunk or start building a career.
The reasons for each person can be individual. You can motivate in the name of a hobby, for example to play sports or play with a car in the garage, the main thing is that he devotes all his free time to it and does not drink and is not in bad company. You may need the help of a psychotherapist.
When the conviction goes unanswered
Conversations, beliefs, pleas - in most cases this is not enough to awaken the conscience.
It is very rarely possible to prove to a drinker that his lifestyle is destructive, because even if he believes in it, his own strength to fight alcohol dependence may not be enough. Instead, traditional medicines and folk remedies are the best medicine.
Industrial pharmacology drugs are designed to create a feeling of rejection of alcohol in a person who drinks, they can cause aversion to drinking, its appearance, taste and smell. It is enough to mix such a drug with an alcoholic, add it to food or add to a drink, and if he additionally drank vodka or even beer, he will immediately feel bad. Drugs with such an effect contain an active substance (either disulfiram or cyanamide), which interferes with the normal process of processing of ethyl alcohol, provokes the accumulation of metabolic products in the blood and, as a result, persistent symptoms of intoxication and hangover. And a person who has fallen ill at least once after alcohol poisoning will have aversion to alcohol for a long time. If you add - a similar drug (Esperal tablets, drops Kolme and their analogues) to a drunkard, you can make him think twice before taking another dose of alcohol.
Once the drugs take effect, a new attempt can be made to persuade the alcoholic to undergo treatment by describing the benefits of treatment in a drug treatment clinic:
- constant monitoring of health;
- psychological support, especially important to prevent relapse;
- qualified assistance for the recovery of internal organs damaged by the abuse of ethyl alcohol.
Hospital treatment under the supervision of a narcologist is the best anti-alcohol therapy, which practically does not fail.
Alternative medicine against overeating is even more ingenious on how to make sick people stop drinking. Traditional methods offer the preparation of decoctions and infusions, which act similarly to official medicines, they speak of completely original medicines:
- green bugs - you can throw 4 bugs in a glass of alcohol to cause an unpleasant smell and taste, and hence disgust with the alcohol itself;
- pepper - you can persuade a person to give up drinking with the help of tincture (3 drops per 1 liter of alcohol), which is created from hot red pepper (crushed, 20 g), filled with alcohol (500 ml) andinfused for two weeks;
- birch smoke - you may want to breathe over smoking birch logs and then offer alcohol, after which you will develop a strong aversion to products containing alcohol.
It is important to understand that treatment without the supervision of a specialist, even with traditional, albeit folk methods, must be carried out with extreme caution, otherwise a person may have not only aversion to drinking and a desire not todrink more, but also serious health problems.
The last stage of the fight
When all methods of struggle are exhausted, there is only one last resort: to threaten a wife with separation if she does not stop drinking. At the same time, it is important for the wife of a drunkard:
- be prepared to carry out your threat without multiple warnings (1-2 times will suffice);
- to leave her husband seriously, not to cause regret, and to make him beg for forgiveness;
- not to believe promises, vows and tears;
- get caught up hard and fast - if the house belongs to the drinking husband, you have to take your things out in his absence and leave for a while with the children;
- do not return to the drunk until he actually proves that he has begun treatment.
You should not return to your alcoholic husband if the situation of leaving and returning does not arise for the first time: sooner or later he will realize that his wife can not really leave him, no matter how drunk he drinks.
To get rid of alcohol in the house, not to allow drinking to take a significant place in the holiday, to "drive" unreliable friends out of the house. . . All this is much easier to do than to later "poison" your husband with drugs that cause aversion to ethyl alcohol. A positive example is a good reason to give so that no one in the family drinks.